Friday, October 12, 2018

Why??

The dreaded day has come. We've reached a new parenting level and we're realizing how unprepared we are. Adaline has learned a word that I can't figure out how to respond to. She has started asking "why?"

Whenver anything doesn't go her way, she asks why?

"Adaline, por favor ayudame a levantar y organizar to ropa."

"Why?'

"Por que es tu ropa."

"Why?"

"Por que tu la sacaste de la caja."

"Why?"

"I don't know why! Why don't you tell me why!"

She's only two and is just developing language, but so far, I have not been able to satisfactorily answer any of her inquisitions. I have completely failed at communicating with her and is frustrating for both of us.

I'm sure the next 16 years will be a blast.

Language is fascinating to watch her pick up. Right now she insists that I say always say "por favor" and that Mrs. Bluth always say "please". And she will even occasionally hold herself to that same rule (saying "por favor" to me and "please" to Mrs. Bluth). She has noticed a pattern and has implemented a rule in the little piece of the universe that she controls.

She has a several other favorite sayings like:
"You don't listen to me!" (when she wants to do something that we've told her not to do)
"I'm tired" (when she wants to do something that we've told her not to do)
"That makes me sad." (when she wants to do something that we've told her not to do)



Traveling Toddler

In the words of Charles Dickens, traveling with toddlers is the "best of times and the worst of times". We have been fortunate enough to be able to travel with Adaline a handful of times and have had mostly good experiences. We've also had some negative experiences, but by and large we enjoy traveling just as much now as we did pre-child.

On Adaline's first flight, she started off like a trooper. She made it nearly 3 hours into the flight and then she just lost control. For the last 45 minutes of the flight, right until we touched down, she dialed her cry up to a ten. Fortunately we were surrounded my nice people that mostly ignored her and didn't shoot us any nasty looks. The guy on the end of the row even pretended to be asleep the entire session. Mrs. Bluth is still scarred from that flight.

Our most recent flight couldn't have gone any differently. We were planning on leaving for the airport at 5:30am and so the last thing we did was wake up Adaline. She sat right up and said "We're going on the airplane today?" She didn't even need to rub the sleep out of her eyes because she was so excited. She loves flying, but mainly because she gets lots of screen time.

The plane this time had individual screens and so she got buckled in and asked for her backpack. She reached in and pulled out her special headphones and asked for help plugging them in. Once she was settled in and watching whatever kid show was on, she didn't acknowledge us for the next four hours (except to start the next episode every time the prior had finished). She didn't need food, water, or the washroom. She just vegged the entire flight.

In some ways, toddlers are incredibly adaptable and resilient. In other ways, not so much. With this trip she immediately warmed up to our hosts and had a blast being herself. She was a pretty darn good houseguest. There was the occasional meltdown because we were certainly asking a lot of her (abbreviated naps, new food, strange sleeping arrangements). 


Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Random Memories

Mr. Bluth walks out of his room with a bright green shirt on. He had just changed. Adaline looks up from TV show she is watching.

ADALINE: Cute! (goes back to watching her show)

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Baby-sitter is telling Mr. Bluth about how well-behaved Adaline was. Tells him that Adaline showed all of her toys. Adaline pulled almost all of them out one-by-one. Eventually she found a blue bell.

BABY-SITTER: Que es esto? (What is that?)

ADALINE: Go Mommy go! GO MOMMY GO!

(Mr. Bluth realizes that this was the bell that he and Adaline carried with them and used to cheer on Mrs. Bluth for her marathon 8 months earlier!)

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Adaline gets in trouble at the pool for trying to bite two different friends (including her best friend!). Because this is new, and severe, behavior, Mr. Bluth talks to her the whole bike-ride home about not biting. They get home to tell Mrs. Bluth what happened.

MRS. BLUTH: What happened at the pool?

ADALINE: I comiendo los dedos de Viola. (I was eating Viola's fingers.)

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Walking home with the neighbor boy after his baseball game. Adaline is in the stroller and he is walking beside her and holding her hand. He is telling everyone about the time that he saw a garden snake. He knew that it was not venomous because venomous snakes have wide mouths and heads because the poison is stored in little pouches on the side of the head. But this snake had a narrow head...

ADALINE (Interrupting him and with a tone of "ah, this explains everything"): Ah, narrow!

Everyone laughs.

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Just after waking up this morning, we're all three laying in bed. Adaline is playing with a headband and Mr. Bluth puts in on his head.

MR. BLUTH: Oh es para mi pelo? (Is this for my hair?)

ADALINE: Papi no tiene pelo. (Papi doesn't have hair.)

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Mrs. Bluth takes a couple of Tylenol and walks out of the kitchen. Adaline walks in.

ADALINE: Papi, necessito medicina. (Papi, I need medicine.)

PAPI: Mami no se siente bien, por eso toma medicina. (Mami doesn't feel well, that's why she's taking medicine.)

ADALINE: (unintelligible babbling that sounds like "mermo")

MR. BLUTH: Huh?

ADALINE: (mimes vomiting and makes vomiting noises)

MR. BLUTH: Oh! Estas inferma! (Oh! You're sick!)

ADALINE: Si, y necessito medicina. (Yes, and I need medicine.)

She wasn't really sick.





Friday, April 20, 2018

Things that Adaline loves

Things that Adaline loves:

Friends - Adaline recognizes and loves to be with her friends. If we're trying to motivate her to get going somewhere, it helps to mention that "so-and-so" will be there. In fact that is how we get her to go just about anywhere that she is resisting. She runs and chases and loves to drag friends around by the hand. If the friend is equally assertive, then there are clashes but the hurt feelings never last more than a minute. If the friend is a little less assertive, then s/he will be dragged around to whatever Adaline wants to do. Friends are what make her world go round.





Babies - She always notices the babies. Sometimes she just hovers around them waiting to be useful or to steal a pat. She makes herself useful and will make sure the baby is covered adequately. But this is always a means to an end. And that end is to hold the baby. She doesn't usually come out and ask to hold the baby at first. But after a few minutes of shadowing and assisting, she wants to hold the baby and she has the biggest smile while doing so.


Swimming - Sometimes on Saturdays we go to the local Park District Pool (Home of the Orcas) during family swim time. In just the last couple of months her confidence has grown tremendously. She will splash around until her lips are blue from the cold. She doesn't love to jump in by herself, but will jump in if anyone is holding her hand. We might be close to her jumping in sola.


Soccer - Last week she had her first organized soccer practice. When I got home from work, she promptly showed me the four kicks she has learned. Inner-foot kick, toe kick, side kick, and back kick. Her side kick consists of her carefully lining up next to the ball and pushing the ball with the side of her foot.

Pictures - She loves to look at pictures on our phones (Although she uses this as a ploy to get access to our phones and then switch to another app). But she also loves posing for pictures and taking pictures of what she considers to be photogenic moments. Sometimes she demands that we stop whatever we are doing so that we can document whatever she has found to be important enough to photograph.
 

 


Sunday, April 15, 2018

Mexico City

In our most recent travels, we only had two goals: eat fantastic food and explore beautiful (and warmer) neighborhoods. Mexico City proved to be the perfect place to accomplish both.

We had known that we wanted to visit Mexico City for a little while (same time zone, short flight, great food!) and all of the sudden tickets were on sale so two weeks later we were taking off.

This did not leave the Mrs. very much time to prepare for our trip. She hastily filled out some spreadsheets but we were lacking some of the careful preparations that she normally does for our excursions.

After a long but mostly uneventful flight, we arrived to our charming hotel at 1AM in the La Condesa/Roma Norte neighborhood. This neighborhood was a little south of the financial sector of the city and between the downtown historic center and the largest urban green-space in Latin America. The architecture was charming and colonial and we came to realize there was a sizable population of ex-pats around.

Sunday morning we slept in before venturing out and realizing that the main boulevard near us was closed on Sunday mornings. Instead of cars zipping up and down the street, there were hundreds of cyclists, skate-boarders, runners, and walkers. We hopped right in so that we could admire some of the neighborhood.

From there we decided to make the short journey to the south suburbs of Mexico City. Xochimilco is famous for its Skittles-colored rafts. We purchased some horchata and hopped on for a ride up around the canal. Mariachis serenaded us as vendors tried to sell us their wares from their own little rafts. Even Adaline learned to say "no gracias" after we were approached far more often than we could possibly purchase.





Adaline loved the patos (ducks) and sitting right on the edge of the raft. 

Afterward, we headed back to the hotel for a nap.

That evening we had the good fortune of meeting up with a mission friend and a Provo friend that are now married! They were kind enough to explore the city with us, take us out to eat, and to show off the Basilica de Guadalupe. Some of the nicest people in Mexico City, no doubt.




Monday was dedicated to a children's museum called El Papolote. It had everything: a water feature, a kitchenette, a mini-supermercado, an aquarium, a firetruck, other children running around, and a food court. We could have spent multiple days exploring this place.




During nap time, I snuck out and found an incredibly delicious, blue-corn gordita with nopales and pork. Brilliant. That evening we found a park, some flautas for dinner, and ice cream.


The next day we headed to Coyoacan to visit the legendary home of Frida Kahlo. This was a fascinating glimpse into the life of a stunning artist. We did not have enough time to see and absorb all of the intricacies of the home, but it was still probably the favorite stop of Mrs. Bluth's.




After a couple hours, we found a small indoor mercado where we ate some lunch (molote and enchiladas) and bought a yellow dress for Adaline. The neighborhood of Coyoacan felt a little like San Diego.

After nap time, we explored the neighborhood of Condesa (saw mansions!) and found another park to play in. We had a fantastic steak dinner at an Argentine steakhouse. They even had a kid's room where Adaline could watch TV and color while we enjoyed a great dinner together.





On Wednesday morning we did some more exploring of Chapultepec Park. We found some park toys meant for children, but there were sure a lot of dogs running around. Then we found a pretty neat bookstore where we picked up a few books and even slid down the in-store slide. We said goodbye to our quaint hotel since we were going to another hotel in another part of town to explore.

Soon we were exploring an enormous park (another one!) closer to the historic downtown. The next stop was 43 floors up in the Torre Latinoamericana. Although we had already driven all over the city, it was a pretty astounding sight to see it spread it in all directions.

We kept walking through the colonial downtown until we reached the famous historic Zocalo. The weather was pretty rainy so we only stayed for a few minutes before heading back. Fortunately, we found some ice cream on the way home. Then I stepped out that evening and had a fantastic pambazo and some rolled tacos.

The following morning we got up early and went straight to the bus terminal. A little over an hour later we were arriving at the architectural remains of an ancient civilization: Teotihuacan.

By the time we reached the top of the Pyramid of the Sun, we were tired again. I loved that you could feel how this was once a bustling city. The Avenue of the Dead that runs right down the middle of the ruins, feels like it is only a few years removed from heavy use. Absolutely a fascinating city.


You want to know a good way to relax after spending the morning climbing ancient pyramids? Go swimming. Strangely, our hotel required that we wear swim caps. Which was fine, but they had to lend us a couple. And they were still a tad wet from the previous wearers. But, oh well, we took a dip. Somehow we managed to squeeze all of this in before nap time.

 


After nap we headed back to the main plaza of Mexico City. Turns out it was the International Day of the Woman, and so we able to listen to a concert right in the heart of the city. Following that we took a peek at the Templo Mayor and then the massive cathedral right on the square. Today the weather was quite a bit better and we were able to spend more time exploring the plaza, especially the massive cathedral (real name: Catedral Metropolitana de la Asunción de la Santísima Virgen María a los cielos).

Soon we were just walking around this central colony looking at plazas, drinking horchata, and observing water fountains. We stopped for some more fantastic rolled tacos on our way to the hotel and that was that.

Before the city woke the next morning, we were in the airport headed home. Our only excitement was that I left my phone at the security checkpoint. Except they said they didn't have it so it was just missing. I boarded the flight thinking it was gone (and very glad that Google Photos just automatically upload!). And then two hours into the flight, a passenger woke me and told me he had seen me leave my phone and grabbed it to return it, but he hadn't seen me again until he walked to the back to use the washroom. Very odd.

Friday, January 26, 2018

This Too Shall Pass

Adaline could not be more independent and enjoy pressing boundaries than any other two-year old. Most days all she wants is to do stuff on her own. Below are a few examples:

1. "Stay" - She is constantly telling me that ... while proceeding to walk off. This continues to be an issue when that word is being repeated to me at places such as the zoo or a museum. I am more than happy to not follow her around our apartment, but exploring the zoo by herself is just a boundary that we are not ready to cross

2. Ballet and Music & Movement classes - Turning two was a huge milestone because it meant that she could start taking a lot more classes (along with having to pay for her to fly). She is currently enrolled in Ballet and a Music & Movement class, which are to be taken with a parent or caregiver. Let me try and paint a picture of what these two classes look like: Imagine children standing with their caregivers and dancing and interacting while occasionally running off and dancing to their own grooves. There are a few children that are shy and almost cling to their adult and others who are more independent and really posses the ability to follow the instructor. The difference with Adaline is that most of the time she won't even stand near me. I am left to stand in the circle doing "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes", "Five Little Monkeys", and all the other songs by myself, while Adaline wont stand near me -- or even acknowledge me. 

3. "No, no, no" - The word no has been long part of her vocabulary, but she keeps finding new ways and opportunities to use it. "No, no, no" when either me or Mr. Bluth attempt to help her put her shoes or jacket on. She can do it even if that means she puts her shoes on the wrong feet. Can't try to help with her socks either.

I don't know if the phrase "this too shall pass" is applicable to this situation, because we may just have a very independent and determined child. I just pray that we can find the best ways to help her grow and flourish using her personality and traits.

While she definitely has her moments when she doesn't need us, we occasionally get the most tender moments of her wanting to be like us. Below are two examples:

1. Mr. Bluth usually plays basketball on Wednesday nights at our church building and one night he was getting ready and somehow Adaline realized what was going on or she heard the word "basketball" because she instantly started saying "papi, ball" over and over while running to put on her tennis shoes and digging through the closet to look for a ball. She wanted to play ball with her papi. I'll let you imagine the distraught two-year old when she could not go with him because it was her bed time.

2. I was getting ready for ballet and had a similar experience of her wanting to go to ballet and both of us feeling broken as I left her crying to go to class. 

While I hope she will always want to do stuff with us like play basketball or dance, I am grateful that she is strong and independent. Even though some days I want to pull my hair out because of it.